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Blog Title:	Vent #1 - a blog about parenting a teen

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hellcat66	30-May-23 23:07:24 IMO.. and this comes from a fellow who's learned a few painful lessons.... This is a 'let the hand touch the burner' situation. Explaining won't have the same effect even assuming they believe you.

mrjimm	31-May-23 12:32:13 I'd say something. Had an issue with our boy (young adult) who was playing "open relationship", with 2. They both were aware and OK with it (so it seemed). One of them is bi, but also nutty with like zero boundaries. The other sweet with very little confidence. He didn't get that the one was going along with it because she just wanted any part of him. And he wasn't seeing anything wrong with that. I suggested he talk with them individually about their true feelings of exclusivity while the other isn't around. He found out the flakey one with no boundaries was thinking of just picking up and moving across the country. See, she's about as deep as a bird bath and throws around the L word with frivolity. Where the other two put a lot of thought into that word. Well his eyes opened and realized he was in a situation where triangulated conflict and hurt feelings were gonna happen. Fortunately he made the right choice after knowing all that. This was all evident to those of us around them with much more life experience and ability to see the traits of each of those 3, giving a reliable prediction of how that was gonna go. These youth, need or guidance, like this if we want them to be good adults with caring and compassion. So be a great parent (not that you aren't anyhow) and spell it out. Kiddo might get pissed, but they'll get over it when it sinks in and they realize you're right. Parenting is a thankless, necessary, very difficult job.

ZippyMilf	3-Jul-23 11:09:26 Update: they've finally opened up @ realizing the two of them have a toxic relationship and breaking things off too stop repeating the cycle. There's more details but that's the jest of it. I actually find this to be extremely mature for a teenager to recognize and act on - to attempt further problems for them both. Something most adults can't do well. Nice to see my Kiddo is ahead of the curve on this one!